A raw, tender, sometimes funny look at the childless life.
A few months ago, I was trolling Zillow for homes I deemed “Not Safe for Babies.” Since then, I’ve been curious about the women walking the same path. The one where you tried for parenthood and then, one day, you’re standing in the spare bedroom that could have been a nursery, wondering what it’s going to become instead.
The name change isn’t just a rebrand. It finally captures what the newsletter is, the questions I’m asking, and the unexpected truths I’m learning about life without children. It’s intentional, honest, and a little unapologetic … just like the essays you’ll find here.
This space is for:
The childless who are quietly redefining what that word even means.
The deeply happy and still sometimes grieving.
Those figuring out how to answer the question, “So when are you having kids?”
People pausing fertility treatments, unsure if they’ll ever resume.
Anyone who thought they’d be a parent … and isn’t.
People who are childfree by circumstance.
Those living in the long, unglamorous aftermath of infertility.
Partners, friends, and loved ones trying to understand this shift.
If you’re building joy, meaning, and connection in a life that doesn’t revolve around raising children, whether by choice, circumstance, or the complicated space in between, this space is for you. If you know someone quietly navigating this too, feel please free to pass it along.
Paid subscriptions are usually $5/month, roughly the cost of a hopeful “maybe this will help” supplement. To celebrate Not Expecting, I’m offering 20% off all paid memberships this month — that’s $4/month down from $5/month or $40.00 for the whole year. If you’ve been reading along and want to support the work or simply want to stay close to these conversations, I’d love to have you here.
Paid subscribers get:
Subscriber-only essays.
Deeper interviews and Q&As.
Access to subscriber-only discussions
Curated resource lists.
… and more as this space grows.